Which type of Person you are ?

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Have you ever seen a snowball running down the hill ? You should watch that …

As it goes along the way , it picks up more and more snow, increases its size thereby increases its mass and thus momentum and gets more speed…

This things is called “Snowball effect” which is any process that start with small significance and grows more and more as it goes on .

Do you remember Newton’s law of motion ?  Any body at REST remains at rest and any body in MOTION , remains in motion…

What it has to do with meeting awesome people in your life?

If you are a normal people, this thing looks like something Physics going on and you neglect…for someone who thinks a lot, it has more meaning than just having in Physics context…

There is really a difference between normal people and the ones who have courage to walk their own journey…

For such people, at times it feels lonely..it feels like they are the only one in the journey…that’s because your friends and family aren’t in the same journey…they are not on the same wavelength as you …

Point here is that you just ave two choices…be with people who are on the same journey as you are or be alone,walk alone even in the group of people …

The problem is , your current friends, family….they are not bad people but they live in a world of limits…Oh baby, don’t do this ..don’t do that ..

“Aamm, I think I’ll choose this subject because my friend also as opted for this ..so must be good “….

Those are the people who restrict their own intuitions and their own wishes with limits..the other group of people , who live their own journey, they do whatever they like in their world…they are free to choose any path, because they don’t care about what people think of them …what they care about is their behavior shouldn’t hurt others…

Those are the people who build up your energy in a way your normal friends and family can’t…

Friends and family are great and they don’t need to be gotten rid of, they just don’t know ‘another way, but it is also very important to be friends with people who are headed the same place you are headed…

Normal people just grow…they don’t see what deep thinkers see…

If you really want to enjoy life, live it ideally, want to see more than what your eyes show you ? learn to be like Sherlock Holmes …think of things which we tend to neglect…

Because sometimes, when someone cooks food for you and you don’t like it …it’s better to say “you want something else with it” than saying “he/she cooked it bad and you didn’t like it “.

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why ?

Cook some food, add little extra spice and salt and listen to what others say ..take it seriously…

Normal people think of it to be being true while deep thinkers understand that adding extra salt and spice is a mistake and just because it happened by mistake , they prefer saying “you want something else with it” or “I will eat it later” than hurting with the other sentences or the anger…

If you think of the scenario and its responses to be wrong, you belong to people of type one and you are happy with it ..better to leave reading it here..

Don’t be the kind of person who have got limits in life…be kind of person who is deep thinker..one who thinks before he does somethings…even with the tiny things in life…

because if you have life with limits..same as like a body in a rest …you won’t move, you won’t progress in life…

Looks like a complete out of sync relation between the laws and life but believe me ..You can’t be a better person until you understand people …you understand yourself ..you understand their side before you spit on them with your thoughts..

Sometimes , it’s better to accept hurt than hurting them back…just for a reason that a person in front matter to you….although he/she is hurting you.

Change your life style…change yourself from the person of type 1 to type 2 .. Have guts to select your path on your own …take risks and guts to complete your dreams !!! Don’t be among those people who live their life just to pass the days ..

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Believe me! Your emotions destroy you…

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Have you ever gone through a situation where you really get scared with those emotions of regret, love, sadness at the same time careful/carelessness playing together on your mind ? All trying to hold onto you?

Tell me one moment of happiness or sadness which really made all your thoughts and worries go off !!!You don’t have one …

Those moments where you really think you are happy…that is just a virtualization going on inside …I have told this before !!!

Our brain continuously keeps us fooled in order to keep this cognition alive ..to keep this feeling of “ME” alive in the body…You live whole of your life this way …

Every time when people please you, when they hurt you, the emotions you get is just a bi-product of whats going on !!!! Whats been hidden and kept secret from you by your own brain is that the level of that sadness,happiness you experience, sets up expectations about that person into your mind …When that person doesn’t do something for you, it hurts you !!!

As a contious person. you just keep adding and collapsing such expectations with all your emotions …people who cross the limit, go out of your life and the people who remain, they are yet to fill your mind with expectations…

May be that’s why your father not bringing chocolate for you hurts more than your new friend who brings sweets for you…because you already have been setting up so many expectations from you father…at least not as less as your new friend. so  that new friend hurting you yet doesn’t matter because you are just introduced..your graphs of people versus expectations isn’t yet filled that much. As you live together, you keep on adding expectations about him while lowering down expectations from your father…

I think life has been all about this ..You do something , you please others, you hurt others, you set expectations, you expect from others, you leave people, you get angry on them just because they didn’t do whatever you wanted or because somehow they hurt you…you get unnecessarily disturbed with those unfinished expectations and destroy seconds in your life ….That’s all life is about !!! Live and let live…

Your emotions destroy you …This is what I mean !!! I accept emotions are part of life but believe me, the please or even the hurt  you think you get with those emotions, is just a  mental disturbance…

You’ll have to control your emotions…they are new like a child’s now…bursting with passion. Never let them fade or part of you will die.

You have to understand, learn to handle these emotions and not to get hurt or pleased with this temporary disturbances. You have to understand the truth behind.

Don’t get hurt by people, rather than being angry on them, try to understand their situations..lot of times it’s not people tat hurt you, it’s those things you expect from them, that hurt you more ….

Hold you emotions dear, never let them take old onto you…Don’t be emotional…be strong.

People are there for us …but if we don’t understand people with life they are going thorough, or if we don’t try to confirm whats right and what’s wrong and get flooded with all these assumptions and misconceptions just because of the limits set by previous sadness or happiness by them , you will just waste all your life pleasing others, living for others..

I love this quote, “Don’t expect anything from anyone…expectations always hurt !!!”.

It’s not like I don’t have emotions but I;m at stage where you can’t really hurt me. Or may be the more appropriate would be “It doesn’t really matter…I either understand your emotions or you get out of my life…That’s only two choice I prefer to keep.”

Update Yourself now !!!

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I always have been thinking about whether I should learn just one programming language or learn whatever comes to me . It has always been an unanswered problem for me.

I asked this to one of the professors in university. He answered it in a way that made me to think and write this article on …

He said, It always used to be best to be better at one skill-set but now a days it has become need to update your self in order to survive in this world.

It’s not only limited to your education but it applies to everything. Get adjusted with the way this whole world works. You either update yourself or you don’t at all do it .

One should remember that in this era of 21st century, where everything is changing day by day, the things you know, the knowledge you have …all is going to get outdated..you must update yourself.

Things we know, the knowledge we have is never going to be enough to survive.That is just 1% of what the world knows. So one should always be in learning stage where he/she keeps on learning things of interest.

Please ! Don’t be satisfied with the knowledge you have. That is not enough.It’s like reaching Everest from Ganga river.It’s not going to be easy.

Don’t waste your tiny little time that at the end of the day sums up to 2-3 hours of wastage. Use it to study.Update yourself….

 

Do we really make mistakes?

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I talked to one of my friend and didn’t with other because he was given a homework to do and I thought he must be busy while he was not..one became angry at me and other became happy that I talked with him.

Did I make mistake?..Decisions…

You don not know from where do those decisions come from. Although we think it comes from mind, no one has yet confirmed it yet.

When you make a decision, people have guilt and anxiety about making a decision.Did I think long enough ? did I take enough into consideration? We think so much before having a decision…

You know what…If you think through, you will understand that practically you couldn’t take enough data into consideration.

Data for decisions at any situation is infinite…

There are infinite things that can happen that you don’t ever know…

So what people do is, they go trough emotions…

They go trough thinking about what they will do about this…but worry is about those people who think of all the variables which are out of their control and what might happen…

Choices are those act of hesitations that we make before making a decision.

Because of all these thoughts and choices we think of, we are always in a situation of doubts about our decisions. Whether I make a right decision? Did it do it wrong ? We give rise to lack of certain kind of self confidence.

With this lack of self confidence, you will make mistakes…and you do it ..you make mistakes . Point to note here is that it’s not the decision you make which leads you to mistakes, rather it’s your lacked self confidence that makes you to make mistakes.

I don’t think our choice at any instant could be wrong…Have you ever seen a cloud that is misshaped? No !!! Clouds are clouds…their shape can’t be wrong at all…Why ? because they have got infinite shapes..there’s noting as right or wrong…Decisions are no more different than this.They always do the right thing.

So If you treat your self for a while as a cloud, or a wave and realize that you can’t make a mistake with whatever you do, because if you do something that seems to be totally wrong, it will wash out with time,doesn’t mean that it was wrong at times…

And with this kind of confidence, and with that you would be able to trust your own intuition. This is the right thing knowing that it has nothing to do with your decisions..it’s all about being confident to whatever you do .

Whether you decide that you can’t do a mistake or you can do a mistake, it’s going to be true anyway …

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

-credits: Allen watts

Bad people…

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You know why bad things happen to Good people?  because there are just too many bad people out there !!!

Not necessarily be true…

I don’t personally think that there’s anything as Good or Bad. Its we people who decide it. If you like someone, he/she is good for you else you don’t even dare to look at that person. Doesn’t at all signify anything about  that persons character.

As a human, you have got control over how do you behave…you can’t decide how people will behave with you. Only thing you can do is to say, “It’s okay.”. Good for you, might be good for them too.

Don’t try to sort how people behave with you. Be good with people, let them behave the way they want.If their behavior affects you in some way, or if it creates confusion, most thing you can do is to explain whats right and what not. Don’t go beyond that.

By this, I don’t mean to be cruel. Thing is that it’s always better to stop your quarrels at a place and move ahead. Either explain how they are wrong or accept their behaviors.If you matter for them , they will come back else it’s okay.

They fight with you, they blame you …doesn’t at all mean that they are bad. It’s because situations they have been going through or their nature. Step into their shoes and you might understand that they are right at their place. Of course what they think might be wrong or misconception but they feel it right.

I mean for a thief, thieving could be right thing…because it feeds him. It’s us who think its bad because its us who are victim of such thieving.

Long story short–> Either explain how they/you are wrong else don’t feel it. it’s okay if they don’t wanna talk to you. You should harshly reply only if it affects your life greatly.

The sentence above should be like below.

“People aren’t bad always, they just behave wrong…”.

or

“Those are not bad people. Those are just badly loved people”.

…makes sense.

A page from father’s dairy…

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Dear Emily,

Daughter is considered to be father’s second love. I strongly believe it in the sense that you occupy not only the first but all the stages of love in the drawers of love in my life. I know how much you mean to me…

From that just born, little girl to the big university girl now, you still that tiny little cute girl for me. no..I’m sure you will always be same for me.

I can really define your meaningful presence in my life and the joy your bring with your presence. I can define that happiness, in your eyes when you come from school and look for me, when move towards your dreams…you are more happy and excited than me.

You are my world and your world revolves around me.

I know, there are times when you think I no more care about you, I don’t love you ..but please don’t be angry at me ever. It’s not just you but I do get hurt…because for some reason, it’s my incompetency to express myself at that situation…It’s just for you.

I wanna say sorry for whatever way I would have hurt you….unknowingly. Thank you so much for being part of my life.

Silent mind…

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Momentary happiness might not mean much sir,

it just seems to be healing those cracks inside…

Although I have adjustments to fight in the dark,

It still cracks.because I’m used to fighting such cracks sir.

because these weapons tears and whimper doesn’t work anymore…

Sir, you will say, all these are just loopholes, but wait..

you are going wrong to judge.Those are inside cracks…

those are cracks that no one thinks of  repairing for me…

Sir, I’m not lost yet…

I’m still learning to live with those cracks…

I’m trying to solve the puzzles of life….